Having a child means dealing with The Homework Issue. Most kids AND adults don’t love homework.
My daughter hasn’t been thrilled with the reasons I give for doing homework. And I admit either have I. They are pretty big picture – to develop your ability to focus, to realize that you can learn on your own, to prepare for later in life when you need to tackle issues by yourself and…and of course – because your teacher told you to, you have to keep up with classmates and most importanly – because if you don’t have homework you’d miss-out on complaining about homework.
My daughter also thinks of me as the grown-up who didn’t grow up. I don’t shave often, I wear pajamas into the afternoon. I read kids book every day.
Now for 24 plus years of my adult life I worked a 9-5 style job (granted more like 7-9) at ad agencies, designs shops, media companies, software companies ETC. But she only knows the guy who sits at home drawing and writing.
I think it’s confusing to my daughter that my job looks like I’m just having fun all day because, you know, art in school is fun time. It’s NOT Homework with a capital H.
And my job is fun. It’s also demanding in ways a kid can’t comprehend. And some days I can’t quite comprehend.
No reason to launch into a defense of what I do and how I am prepared, or not, to do this because of my education. And she does see me during days when it’s not fun at all. And it’s frustrating and can be filled with self doubt in a way no ‘normal’ 9-5 job can be.
But why do math homework when dad sits at home drawing tigers? It will be a long couple years, won’t it!?